A friend texted me, hurt and frustrated after being body shamed by a family member.
Although I found a lot of resources to share with her, I couldn't find the exact article I wanted.
So I've decided to write down my own thoughts, as well as share some resources, in an effort to help ANYONE who needs to put a hater in their place.
Remember: it's your body.
First of all: No! You do not get to tell a person how to be. YOU get to monitor and judge your own body only. No one else. I don't care if that person is your child, they are not You. Period.
Secondly: Words hurt. Not only do they sting in the moment, but after time they seep into the brain and mess with things. And the person your words are directed at is not the only one who hears you.
But seriously, what kind of jerk says something like that to someone?
Think before you speak!
After a quick search, here are some facts from National Eating Disorders .org
81% of 10 year olds are afraid of being fat
35-57% of adolescent girls engage in crash dieting, fasting, self-induced vomiting, diet pills, or laxatives.
3rd: You don't know. There are millions of reasons a person might be fat.
The person you are judging may have a medical condition. They may be on medication that causes weight gain, water retention, etc. That person may be recovering from an eating disorder (for example model Crystal Renn, photos above). They may have just lost a family member and are grieving. Regardless of their reason, YOU DON'T KNOW and therefore should shut your mouth. Additionally, it's none of your business - see point #1.
Finally, here are some resources for anyone who may need them.